ASK DOMINICK: Male Escort Advice Column #24: TAKING IT ON THE ROAD - The Escort Tour
ASK DOMINICK: Male Escort Advice Column #24: TAKING IT ON THE ROAD
Former kept boy and retired full-time escort“Dominick” transitioned into a successful career in commercial real estate, where the art of the sell is supreme. He’s appeared in various forums, bringing true accounts of his experiences to light. Two of his stories are included in the latest volume of Prose & Lore.
This month, he’s appearing live on stage at Joe’s Pub for the Red Umbrella Diaries Gala on November 14th. The show’s sold out, but look for news of the feature documentary Red Umbrella Diaries. (Rentboy.com’s own Jeffrey Davids is an Associate Producer— many thanks Jeff!) Dominick’s illustrated chapbook, Dominick Reading for Filth is now available on CreateSpace. There’s a launch party for the book at the Bureau of General Service—Queer Division on November 23rd.
This question is from Clark Rogers (above) in Chicago:
QUESTION: Any advice for an escort about going on tour?
I touched on some common sense travel guidelines in my earlier post Time, Money, Motion, but let’s go over some specific tips about touring. Many escorts are able to travel away from their home base and spend lucrative weekends lining up appointments in other cities. One big challenge is to make sure your travel, hotel and incidental expenses don’t eat up all your profit! Let’s look at how this can work:
1. Base a tour around a set booking
I was based in New York, the country’s single biggest marketplace, so I didn’t need to travel beyond the tri-state area all that much. My colleagues who did tour would often organize a tour around a solid, regular booking, usually an overnight. So say you book a travel overnight to another city with someone you already know. It’s a great opportunity to announce that you’ll be in that town for a few days and line up additional appointments. You might make additional stops along the way home. You may want to let your regular know that this is your intent, depending on your level of disclosure with him.
2. Buddy up
I’ve known escort buddies to travel together, sharing expenses along the way. You can keep each other company and look out for each other. Your hotel bill is often the biggest expense, and you can cut it in half, assuming you’re different enough types that you’re not chasing the same business! If you’re sharing a hotel room, you’ll have to work around each other’s schedules.
3. Plan your travel in advance
Whether travelling by plane, train or bus, you can usually count on lower costs with at least 21 days advance booking. Look into travel logistics too, like getting to and from the airport, and available public transit. Incidental travel can add up fast and often winds up being a hidden cost. Look for deals and discounts in hotels, too– or you might consider a hosting site like AirBnB, or gay-friendly MisterBnB. You can potentially save money over hotels, if you’re planning on doing outcalls only.
4. Know your destination
Washington, DC is one of the most common destinations for touring escorts. It’s fairly underserved: currently there are 45 escorts listed on rentboy.com living in DC (the rest are visiting). That’s pretty low considering 5.7 million people live in the greater metro area- compare that to 88 resident escorts in Miami, with a similar population. Weekend rates at DC hotels are fairly low; there’s usually more demand on weekdays. Keep in mind that DC virtually shuts down in August, when Congress is in recess. So it’s good to know about specific market conditions in the place you’re visiting.
5. Ask your hotel calls
Maybe you’ve got an upcoming call with an out-of-towner visiting your hometown. He’s staying in a hotel, you meet him there, and the call goes really well. Ask him if he might want to see you again in his hometown- this may be the booking you can plan a future tour around.
6. Hop on a Bike!
Who needs taxis? In many cities across the US, there are bike-sharing programs in place, and more on the way. You can sign up for a day or a week and bike to your calls. Currently there are large bike-sharing networks in New York, Washington, DC, Minneapolis, Boston, San Antonio, San Francisco, and Denver, in addition to Divvy, in your hometown. What better way to arrive to your call than with that athletic glow and worked-out glutes?
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"READING FOR FILTH" by Ask Dominick (Rentboy Advice Columnist) Now Available in Paperback!
Cover Art by Gio Black Peter
Authored by Ask Dominick the Rentboy.com Escort Advice Columnist Illustrated by Scott Hug, Paul Gellman, Carlo Uranus, Damani Moyd, Miguel Libarnes, Alice O’Malley, Edited Dale Corvino
An illustrated chapbook and collection of transcripts from staged public readings performed by Dominick, a former kept boy and escort. The readings took place in New York City beginning in 2007 at the now-defunct Rapture Café. His appearances were part of the weekly series “Dean Johnson’s Reading for Filth: Queer Writers Reading about Sex” with contributors Edmund White, Eileen Myles, Craig Seymour, and Mike Albo.
The readings are tales from the life, drawn from the diaries Dominick kept when he embarked on a career as a full-time escort, serving the greater NYC metro area. Also included: a reminiscence of his kept boy existence with his Sugar Daddy, the late English society decorator Stuart Greet; and his tribute, on the occasion of his untimely death, to downtown legend and queercore rocker Dean Johnson, the founder of the series. The readings are lurid and frank confessions of a sexual outlaw, and trace a heat map of desire through the vast field of longing that is New York City.
Purchase DOMINICK READING FOR FILTH
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ASK DOMINICK: Male Escort Advice Column #23, Interview with Brandon Aguilar
ASK DOMINICK: Male Escort Advice Column #23, Interview with Brandon Aguilar
BRANDON AGUILAR (www.rentboy.com/brandonaguilar) is a former porn actor, escort and writer. He and I attended the Red Umbrella Project’s writing workshop and both have pieces in the second volume of RedUP’s Prose & Lore, which launched last week to positive reviews. Brandon grew up in Kansas City, MO and has an MFA in painting from the Art Institute of Chicago.
He appeared in a number of gay porn titles, such as “Closed Set: Oral Report,” directed by Joe Gage and “Christian’s 24 Cocks in 24 Hours” by Treasure Island Media. He lives in Brooklyn. Dominick, Brandon, and burlesque performer Essence Revealed will be reading their stories at the Bureau of General Services- Queer Division, on July 23rd at 7 PM.
Gay Porn: Why Did I Survive?
Actor, designer, and writer Frankie Valenti - more widely known as JOHNNY HAZZARD (www.twitter.com/JohnnyHazzard) - is a former porn star who sheds a bit of light on the porn industry, his life in and out of the business, and valuable advice to newcomers in his Huffington Post article.
Does too much sex kill? Well, not directly, but the rash of deaths within the gay porn world seems to suggest otherwise. Some were health-related, while others were undisputedly self-inflicted. But sadly, they are gone. They were big players in the scene, and they were my friends. Being a recognizable face in this industry, many have asked me, “Johnny, how did they die?” or, “Johnny, what’s going on in that world of yours?” Then, most recently, writer and friend Brett Edward Stout asked me, “Johnny, how did you survive?” I was speechless. I had no answer.
How did I survive? We all faced the same challenges, so why am I still here when my friends are not? Even after taking days to think about it, I still can’t totally explain why I survived. Maybe it’s because my family supported me, or maybe it’s because I made good or lucky choices.
I never wanted to be a porn star. In fact, I never even knew such a thing existed. My exposure to porn had consisted of three VHS tapes from the early ’90s that I’d watch on repeat. When I showed up for my first gig, I did it because I was bored. I wasn’t thinking about fame, fortune, or perks. I thought it’d be fun to do once or twice. Little did I know that that decision would lead to a life-changing role that forever defined the way I fit in the gay world.
So You Think You Can Hook?
I’m finding that a lot more people are open to hooking these days. My being so honest and upfront about my sextra-curricular activities definitely entices people to ask me questions regarding the world’s oldest profession, and a lot of these inquiries are on getting started as an escort. But before you log online and create an ad on RentBoy.com there are a few things you should ask yourself.