This is an excellent New York Times article about the way people respond to one another online. We’re not sure it’s exclusive to sex work, but we’ve definitely seen some particularly nasty remarks made on other blogs and sites about everything from a performer’s height to their shoe size. Why hate on somebody who’s just trying to help get you off?
ANYONE who has ever been online has witnessed, or been virtually walloped by, a mean comment. “If you’re going to be a blogger, if you’re going to tweet stuff, you better develop a tough skin,” said John Suler, a professor of psychology at Rider University who specializes in what he refers to as cyber psychology. Some 69 percent of adult social media users said they “have seen people being mean and cruel to others on social network sites,” according to a 2011 report from the Pew Research Center’s Internet and American Life Project.
Posts run the gamut from barbs to sadistic antics by trolls who intentionally strive to distress or provoke. Last week, Zelda Williams, the daughter of Robin Williams, said she was going off Twitter, possibly for good, after brutal tweets by trolls about her father’s death. Yet comments do not even have to be that malevolent to be hurtful. The author Anne Rice signed a petition a few months ago asking Amazon.com to ban anonymous reviews after experiencing “personal insults and harassing posts,” as she put it on the site of the petition, Change.org. Whether you’re a celebrity author or a mom with a décor blog, you’re fair game. Anyone with a Twitter account and a mean streak can try to parachute into your psyche.
Can you even believe this weather we’re having? It was another totally beautiful weekend in New York, and we spent some quality time away from the screen. If you had better stuff than computering going on, here’s some things you might have missed:
The folks over at Queerty have posted possibly one of the most useful pieces of content you could ever hope to find on the interwebs: Their top tips for getting the best possible pics of your tender bits. We all know how it feels to be on the receiving end of a truly terrible dick pic, so let’s put a stop to that, once and for all.
While some men salivate over a big, hairy bush, the majority of people do not want to see a giant tangle of curly, unkempt pubic hair with your penis poking out from it. So trim those pubes, fellas. And, for the love of God, if you have pimples or ingrown hairs down there, pop into your local Walgreens and invest in some $5 cover up.
Setting A toilet in the background is a good way to turn off a viewer as it reminds them of a very unsexy part about yourself. A messy bedroom or cluttered home office can also be off-putting. You don’t want the recipient to think you’re a slob, so tidy up before taking that photo.
Read all five tips over at Queerty.com and tweet @rentboydotcom with results if you try any of them for yourself!
The First Half of Str8upGayPorn's Best and Biggest
Str8UpGayPorn.com put out the first half of their ‘Best and Biggest Cocks’ list this week and you’ll be shocked (or maybe not - we don’t know about your life) to see how many of these guys are proud Rentboys! Check out the list below with links:
Explorative and educated, I have been in the adult industry for 2 years now. Also in college for medicine. 5’11, 150lbs, brown eyes. I am one of the easiest people to talk to because I verse myself in many different topics. Sexually, there isn’t to much I am not into. I consider myself more on the kink side. Even the kinkiest though can play vanilla if that is your comfort level.
Dylan West, a 25-year-old gay Atlantan who works in international aid, has found out firsthand that not every doctor is as familiar with PrEP as McCulley’s.
Some gastro-intestinal issues recently landed West in the emergency department. He’d started PrEP after beginning a relationship with someone who’s HIV-positive. One of the doctors in the emergency room noticed that West listed Truvada as a medication he regularly takes.
“She immediately, without asking any questions, just said ‘Well, we should probably test for gonorrhea, syphilis, HIV/AIDS — the list,’” he says.
West feels that physician made a “rash assumption” about his sexual practices because he was on Truvada. West knew stigma was something he might face.
Mischa Badasyan has a very busy year ahead of him. The 26-year-old performance artist plans to have sex with a different man, every day, for the next 365 days beginning in September. That’s the idea behind his latest project, “Save the Date.”
“It’s going to be my most sophisticated and dangerous work of art, in terms of mental health,” Badasyan says. “So, yes, it’s going to be pretty hard — and to be honest, I’m a little bit scared.”
Check out this excellently written piece from the latest issue of the Economist:
This newspaper has never found it plausible that all prostitutes are victims. That fiction is becoming harder to sustain as much of the buying and selling of sex moves online. Personal websites mean prostitutes can market themselves and build their brands. Review sites bring trustworthy customer feedback to the commercial-sex trade for the first time. The shift makes it look more and more like a normal service industry.
It’s Sunday, so we feel like we can share this without anybody noticing that it’s ever so slightly off topic for us. Check out this Dlisted piece on New York artist Claire Wyckof and her Nike+ penis creations. We think it’s the best possible combination of Nike and penises so far.
Claire Wyckoff, my new favorite artiste who uses the Nike+ running app to draw dicks of all shapes and sizes while she runs. A few months ago, I, for some crazy reason, decided that I should maybe get exercise beyond using my foot to grab the remote control off of the coffee table and fapping…
Manhunt Daily Gets Intimate With Rentboy Favorite Sean Xavier
Boy, nothing gets us hotter than beautiful men who are smart as hell. Check out this interview from Manhunt Daily with Rentboy @seanxavierxxx, where he talks about female condoms, porn, escorting, and what it’s like to be in command of such a huge, powerful brain. Smartypants? More like smarty-no-pants.
Thanks for taking time out today to chat with me Sean. What’s your summer been like so far?
Busy. Not in that 9-to-5, working like crazy, busy push; but, busy. Life changing moments for me. I moved to the Midwest just over a year ago to gain residency before starting grad school, and now it’s the final moments of sun before grad school actually starts. I’m very excited!
I celebrated the one-year anniversary with my beau, and we’re happily going strong and steady. I’ll soon be traveling internationally to Spain for their world-renowned dance parties in Barcelona and Ibiza. Then there’s the filming, sex(t)ing, traveling and general life.
It’s going by quickly.
It sounds like the Summer of Sean™. How do you find time to juggle all that?
You should see my calendar! It’s a Jackson Pollock of color bars that tell me when and where I need to be having sex with whom or what.
Talk to me about this grad school residency. Are you busy becoming Dr. Sean Xavier?
The Ph.D. is postponed for the moment, but Master Sean Xavier is definitely in the works. The residency was more of a financial consideration. In-state tuition is much, much cheaper than out-of-state.
Join Rentboy.com’s GREG LEGRAND and thousands of gays from Europe and all over the world at the Circuit Festival Barcelona. From August 7 to 17 the hottest guys and girls are expected to join the celebration with 20 parties, more than 50 Djs and international artists and plenty of sun and beach days to heat up the Catalonia capital.
It was a quiet weekend (and then a Monday) round our parts, but unsettlingly beautiful weather in New York. We weren’t as focused on our screens as we usually are so here’s what happened if you missed it too:
(Q) Hi Dario, it’s so exciting to get a chance to talk to you. What city were you born in? Where did you grow up?
Hello! I was born and raised in Barcelona, my favorite city in the world: it has everything one needs to be happy. My family hails from Granada, in Southern Spain—where the sexiest boys in the world are! Ha, ha, ha! This, of course, is due to the myriad of multiracial pairings in the area…for example, the Moorish Empire domination, hundreds of years ago.
Interview with Masseur NED JACKAROO in New York City
Every week Manworks(Rentboy.com’s massage partner site) goes around the country and around the world to bring you an interview with one of our Masseurs so that you guys can get to know him a little bit better, and maybe get some more information about the kinds of massage that are available to you.
This week’s Manworks Interview is with NED JACKAROO. This furry ginger lad, with his talented hands hails from Austraila and has made New York his home!
How long have you been a masseur/bodyworker?
I started professionally about 5 years ago in Australia. But I’ve been rubbing people down my whole life.
We were wrong to question Andrew Justice. The gay porn DILF held his ground on The Ten, preventing former champions Todd Sanfield, Saul Harris and Paddy O’Brian from reclaiming the title of “Sexiest Man of The Moment“. A measly 15 votes actually kept Paddy out of the top five, while six-week competitor Bravo Delta suffered a similar fate.
The decriminalization of sex work is among one of the most important steps needed in order to curtail the spread of HIV, according to the findings of a group of HIV researchers recently published inThe Lancet and presented at the 20th Annual International AIDS Conference. The need to focus on marginalized populations grows as mainstream populations gain increasing access to HIV-preventative measures and drugs to treat the virus, the research explains.
The longer sex work remains illegal, said The Lancet’s editor-in-chief Richard Horton, the longer those involved in the profession will generally go without seeking the same kinds of treatments necessary to ensure their sexual safety.